Feminism....

http://madamenoire.com/57269/how-feminism-is-ruining-your-love-life/

I just read this article and then started reading the comments below. Boy was that fun. Its interesting to see how people's lives have affected their viewpoints and how easy people generalize and try to force their opinions on others.

It's stupid.

Men and Women are the same species. We're all human. We throw labels on everything because as humans we tend, as a species, to quest for knowledge and to simply know things. And to know something, you must classify it seems to be a pretty big idea. So we end up with, feminists, radical, conservatives, socialists, communists, capitalists, masculists (yeah bet you didn't know about those), and a whole plethora of labels. And its nice to be able to give something a name, it makes it less scary. Its like when your window gets hit by a tree and you think its a ghost because you're 4, then you're told be a parent that it was just a tree. Oh, a tree, well then now that I know what it is, it's not scary anymore.

Anyway, men and women are different. And better yet, men are different from other men, and women are different from other women, and some men are the same as some women and some women are the same as men. Fancy that right? There's no general principles that will define all men or women in a clear cut fashion. You can't even break up a hermaphroditic or transvestite or third gender type person because plenty of them identify with either a third gender or as one or the other.

In no way is anything universal to the sexes. Is that so hard to understand? You can root explanations in biology, but its nurture not nature that shapes most of our lives. If you're raised in an abusive household you might become mute, you might become strong, you might have issues or hell somehow you'll tend up 'normal' it all depends on who you are. And its the same with the relationships between men and women.

No single relationship is the same between people, when people try to classify each other it only hurts peoples feelings. Go ahead, tell your significant other "I wear the pants" and watch how infuriated they'll become. When you demean someone it doesn't matter what gender they are or who they are, it hurts, and when a human is hurt, you retaliate.

Now onto a bit of what those comments touched on, because they were all fairly different. Some yelled about how women were being oppressed, some about how men were oppressed. I can see both sides of the argument. And both stem from the same source. Entitlement. Some women, and some men feel like they're entitled to certain things in life. Like, if you're raised that men open doors for women, then as a woman you'll expect a guy to hold the door for you as a norm. Likewise, if a guy is raised that the woman cooks meals in the home, then he'll expect that. Both sexes feel they are entitled to what they're used to. When people start seeing entitlement as something to enforce then you have a problem. Men being paid more? Entitlement. Women being the nurturing and loving side of parenting? Entitlement. Its all crap.

Any sex or gender can play any role they want. But the point is that the roles should be played to complement each other and so you work together. If a couple pairs up, doesn't matter if its same sex or straight, then they should help each other to grow and become better as people in general. Its not a fucking competition and that's what everyone, not one sex specifically, need to understand. It' teamwork that matters and when you're a goddamn couple, that means you're together, and hopefully making each other better off for it. Supporting each other through rough times, complimenting each other when you're feeling down, pointing out ways to get farther in the world. Everything. Being in a relationship is a two-sided street. Not some ridiculous one way where all the love and affection stream from one person to another. Although that one's a one way street, a one way street to the person whose putting in the effort to leave and find someone who will actually appreciate them.

My problem with radical feminists is that they think they can do everything themselves with no ones help but their own, or worse yet, only other feminists could possibly understand and help them. That goes against original feminists ideals. Men and Women as Equals. Equals share responsibility and don't try to do everything themselves, they work together as equals, to make something bigger than themselves.